Dating in the 30s
Here are some truths you need to know if you're about to head out into the dating pond in your late 30s. These are the bachelors that hit late-30s and into mid-40s and suddenly realized, "Oh snap! And now that I am all grown up, I think it's time I settled down.I think I will pick a nice 25-year-old." Even though you're their age or even quite younger than them by years, you're still old to them. The right one won't care that you're not in your 20s, absolutely, and you're not old, but yet there are guys who will completely shut you down, especially online, if you're a year over his age range. A lot of the allure of the young woman comes with an assumption of fertility.Besides, in your 30s you have more stories to tell. Just because you’ve survived heartache to get here doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t trust the next person to come around.
This is because when they finally achieve independence and look for men who have done the same, the realize they’re not looking for powerful, independent women in their 30s; they’re looking for attractive women in their 20s that will make .
More important than getting married or raising children is being with the right person. Right Now, and don’t scare off a great gal with your impatience. With age comes wisdom; you’ve learned from past mistakes and now know what you need in a relationship and what you have to offer.
Just because your friends are at a different life stage doesn’t mean that you’re running to catch up. Learn to communicate your values and dreams without bitterness or urgency. You’re aware of your strengths and weaknesses, as will your date be aware of his/hers.
(You probably don’t attend a weekly pub night with your sorority sisters anymore.) With fewer fish to choose from — and likely a busier schedule that keeps you from leisurely bumping into Mrs. Right — now is a good time to give online dating a shot. Say goodbye to the rules, the formulas and the ticking clocks.
Matchmaking sites can let you be specific about who you’re looking for and what kind of relationship you’re seeking. It’s okay to desire marriage and a family, but you can’t go on a date accessorized with the desperate pressure to settle down.You also likely have fewer single friends, so there's more pressure to couple up. One of my girlfriends is 35 and she just married a 27-year-old.