Dating an alcholic
He explained he had been unable to get through to him in the past, but that he hoped I could succeed where he had failed.
At first, it was easy to ignore or downplay my boyfriend's drinking problem because he was a happy, fun drunk.
I could listen to him for hours, on topics ranging from books and music to the indexed search he was building at work.
I felt confident because I knew he found me equally mesmerizing. I started to realize there was a problem after we had been dating for about three months. We were joking about how my friends would be meeting him for the first time.
If your guy or gal just can’t seem to master the art of “moderation,” then he or she likely has an “addictive” type of personality; and addiction often follows for those who are not willing to take the necessary precautions to deal with this genetic flaw.
If you find yourself being pushed — either overtly or subconsciously — to drink more and more in an effort to keep up, this is the time to say, “Whoa!
Two and a half years ago, I met him on a Brooklyn rooftop overlooking New York City. I could try to describe the pinks in the sunset over the skyline, or the contrast between the warm summer air and the cold vodka sodas I was drinking.
A list of other “problems” will be presented: He’ll tell you he’s not ready for a commitment; she’ll say her job is just too demanding at this point.
Or they’ll pick at small, inconsequential things in order to create a rift as an excuse to break up.
But as they continued to see each other, gradually everything became about spending all their free time “relaxing” on his boat.
They would anchor in a local body of water, and party for several hours — drink, play loud music, drink, dance a bit, go for frequent dips, drink, sit and watch the other boaters. Now, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying this activity occasionally.But Sherry began skipping her preferred activities in favor of boating — every weekend. And when she tried to gently point out that he might want to cut back, she was met with resistance and denial on his part.